Thursday, April 21, 2005

4 Unusual Self Confidence Tips

Here are some self confidence tips which can be developed into unconscious characteristics of your personality. The most effective use of these self confidence tips is done through repetition and reinforcement.

The use of the self confidence tips described here must be done on a daily basis and with a conscious effort on your part to retrain the way your mind works.

Again, self confidence is a learned skill, and all learned skills must be improved upon regularly.

1. Develop the habit of learning from mistakes.

The most successful people in any industry have learned to let go. Certainly they still find themselves in a position where they may not have done the right thing.

But rather than beat themselves up about it, they evaluate where they have gone wrong and resolve to avoid that mistake in the future.

In other words they view mistakes as lessons, and enhance their self confidence by believing that experience allows them to avoid amateur mistakes.

2. Talk to yourself.

This is perhaps the easiest route to self confidence. Our minds absorb the things we feed them on a daily basis whether those things are positive or negative.

Develop a list of your own character traits that need improvement. Then write a positive statement about yourself and that character trait.

Example: I am highly organized. Repeat this list of positive statements to yourself out loud whenever you have the opportunity. The best times are in the morning when you first wake up and in the evening before you go to sleep.

Make sure you repeat them out loud. Simply hearing these things said about yourself out loud will result in greater self confidence.

3. Be prepared.

In whatever area you are attempting to improve on, nothing beats the proper preparation. Successful salesman will mentally prepare for a presentation by constantly repeating the presentation until they have the major points memorized.

They will also record themselves on tape giving the presentation in order to hear how it sounds. More time is spent investigating the client and his industry to evaluate where a produst might be useful.

Finally the product is looked at from a customers point of view so that objections and questions can be handled before they arise.

4. Use Positive Visualization.

This is a powerful tool to use in developing self confidence. The best athletes create a powerful mental image of themselves accomplishing their goal.

The emotional impact of creating an image in your mind replicates the feeling of success and creates the same physical effect on your body as the actual accomplishment of your goal.

Before attempting something, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and picture yourself as being in the situation you desire to happen.

If you can see it happening in your mind you can make it a reality. Self confidence grows with visualization.

To sum things up, self confidence is a habit, and like any habit becomes something you do unconsciously. The self confidence tips described here are useful if you make them habits and they become second nature to you.

Once the pattern is established, you will have no problems with continuing to build your self confidence.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at:

Monday, April 18, 2005

How to Build Self Confidence

If you find yourself lacking self confidence, don’t despair
because you can learn how to build self confidence. By
learning how to build self confidence you can make your
dreams come true.

How to build self confidence is not something you are born
with, but rather a skill you can acquire. Many people
believe a prerequisite for high self confidence is success,
talent, intelligence, beauty or popularity.

Although social acceptance does help build self esteem in
individuals, it does not create it. If you are struggling
with your self image and want to learn how to increase your
self confidence in order to be self assured and proud of
yourself, simply implement the following rules into your
daily life.

1. Make a list! Build your self confidence by making a list
of the things you like about yourself. Everyone has talents
and the key is to identify yours and acknowledge them!
Whether you are great at multi-tasking or gardening,
recognize your strengths and take pride in them.

2. Accept yourself! When you are happy with yourself and
accomplishments you will have self confidence. Allow
yourself to be proud of your accomplishments, even small
ones, and your self esteem will have a strong foundation.

3. Get involved! Teach a class, volunteer in the community
or become a mentor. After acknowledging your strengths,
find a way to share them with others. Your self confidence
will soar when you share your strengths and talents with

4. Be realistic! Being honest with yourself and
capabilities will take you a long way down the road to self

Demand the best of yourself, but do not demand something
that is unattainable. Strive to be the best you can be and
you will succeed!

5. Give yourself a chance! Set realistic goals and make a
plan to achieve them. If the plan does not work out, keep
the ultimate goal in sight and revise the plan.

Just because a plan does not work does not mean you cannot
attain your goal. It just means you might need to take a
different road to get there.

6. Be positive! Eliminate negativity from your life. If
your friends and family, or even yourself, are always
negative and unsupportive your self esteem will likely

Make sure you have a support group that encourages you and
helps you build and maintain your self confidence. Also,
support yourself by staying positive.

As you can see, you are only a few steps away from
attaining the self confidence to engage in any of the
activities that once intimidated you.

And, the above rules are not difficult to learn and do not
require a lot of hard work. Simply make yourself a
priority, take pride in your accomplishments and celebrate
your uniqueness.

Recognizing and sharing your talents will make your self
esteem sky rocket and you will finally learn how to build
self confidence.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to
Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals
the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate
with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available
for a limited time only at: