Tuesday, October 05, 2004

How to talk to people

This is a new article about how to talk to people. After you read it make sure to apply the tips right away because you will know more about how to talk to people...

How To Avoid Saying Stupid Things When You Meet People
by Peter Murphy

The fear of saying something silly and feeling embarrassed
stops many of us from contributing more to discussions at
work as well as when we are relaxing with friends.

This is especially true when we meet new people. Ironically
the more we worry about it, the more tense we get and the
more likely we are to say something stupid.

Let us a take a look at three simple remedies you can start
using today.

1 Learn To Relax When You Feel Under Pressure

It is very important to manage your emotions if you want to
communicate at your best. This is an essential skill.

There are a wide range of courses and books that you can
refer to if you want to learn more about relaxation.

When you feel relaxed it is easier to think on your feet
and to be flexible when you need to be. Make a point of
incorporating a relaxation exercise into your day.

2 Prepare Yourself

Before a social gathering get ready to have something to
talk about.

With the internet on your PC there is no excuse for not
becoming well informed about the world. The more knowledge
you have the more conversations you can contribute to.

Make a point though of reading up on a variety of subjects
otherwise your conversation topics will be limited to what
interests you the most. And those topics may not interest
everyone else as much.

Thorough preparation is the key to making a great

3 Become Genuinely Interested In Other People

One of the big secrets to conversation power is to shut up!

We are all a lot more interested in ourselves than in
anyone else. Use this insight to direct the conversation to
topics that interest him or her.

When there is a long silence encourage the other person to
talk by asking questions and taking an active interest in
the answers.

Take charge of the situation if you want the conversation to

4 Mistakes Are Allowed!

If you make a mistake it is not the end of the world but if
you try to hide your error then the situation can become
chaotic very quickly.

It is far better to just admit that you made a mistake.
Also, accept that even smart people get it wrong sometimes.

As long as you accept that you will make mistakes you have
nothing to worry about. Expecting yourself to be perfect is
unfair and just sets you up for failure.

All you need to do now is to decide how you will deal with
these mistakes when they do happen.

5 Enjoy The Silence!

When there is a long silence in a conversation - what
normally passes through your mind? Do you judge it as bad?
Do you feel under pressure to speak?

The other person has created the silence with you. Why not
wait for him to speak first? Take the responsibility off
your shoulders. It takes at least two people to have a

Finally, the reason silence can be uncomfortable is because
you become self-conscious. You become very aware of your
own thoughts and feelings

There is one great way to deal with this. Put your
attention on something outside of yourself by paying great
attention to the other person and whatever is going on
around you in the room.

Become fascinated by what you see and hear and you will
forget about your own concerns.

Now, go and use these tips today...

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report:10 Simple Steps to
Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals
the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate
with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available
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How to talk to people is easier when you read the report offered above.

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