Thursday, June 02, 2005

How To Drop Futile Communication Patterns

by Peter Murphy

Have you ever noticed that you make the very same mistakes
again and again when dealing with people?

I like to refer to this as... the futility of repeating
what does not work! And we all fall into this trap to some
degree. We become so used to not being able to do something
that we think it cannot be done.

Let´s say you find it difficult to start conversations with
complete strangers. You tried before and you didn´t do very
well. And because you failed a few times you start to dread
such encounters, avoid them and even find ways to ensure
you rarely have to deal with these types of situations.

What are the consequences of this approach?

It´s obvious really -- you will get worse and worse at
meeting new people because you rarely allow it to happen
and because you never get the opportunity to work at it and

This is a sure fire recipe for stagnation with no hope for
improvement and personal growth. It´s time to shake things
up a little and find new and even fun ways to stop
repeating the same old mistakes.

Here is one tip for learning new ways of dealing with
people -- find someone who seems to have a natural flair
for creating rapport with people and follow that person
around to observe him or her in action.

Listen to what I did...

I was hanging out with my buddy Craig - in the shopping
mall one hot summer Saturday afternoon. It was scorching
hot outside so we were enjoying the cool of the mall while
we wandered aimlessly from store to store.

Then it hit me!

Craig´s experience of shopping was completely different to
mine. Every opportunity he got he was joking with the
staff, having fun with anyone he met and laughing and
smiling his way around the mall.

This was alien to me at the time. I usually crept about the
stores, keeping to myself and carefully avoiding eye
contact with other shoppers and store assistants. I used to
keep human interaction to a bare minimum.

Craig was living proof that communication skills can be
mastered. And I had not even realized until that point that
it was even possible to get so good.

No wonder I had been having trouble dealing with people. I
was actively avoiding people because I did not know what to
say or even how to say it.

From that point on my sense of possibility expanded and all
I needed to figure out was how to easily and effortlessly
change my behavior.

Thankfully, you can change your life and now is the best
time to start. Communicating with confidence can be

Find a proven formula and follow it. You will be amazed at
how quickly you will progress. Although some people fear
otherwise, people skills can be learned by anyone of at
least average intelligence.

The difficulties you had in the past will not stop you
making rapid progress now. What matters is learning a
proven approach you can use for the rest of your life.

I did it.

It only took me 14 years. Are there any short cuts to
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Peter Murphy

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
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communicate with charm and impact.

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