Friday, August 27, 2004

3 Secrets to Developing Superior People Skills

1. If What You Are Doing Is Not Working Change Your Approach

When I was in school I always had a small group of close friends
but I never found it easy meeting new people. By the time I
reluctantly entered the work force it was clear that my
communication skills were limiting my progress.

The fact that I was as capable or even more capable than my
peers meant little when I was unable to create a favorable
impression.

I needed to become a lot more confident, dynamic and charming.

And I did. I changed my approach once I learned how to by
studying advanced communication skills.

What would have happened if I did not change my approach? Year
after year I would have become more and more frustrated and
bitter.

I could easily have adopted the world view that nothing ever
works out for me and before long I would have spent most of my
time with other negative people.

Things do not change until you change. Doing nothing is not an
option in case you actually think it is. The trend will continue
and reach its natural conclusion until you change the trend.

Decide to change and look for answers. The clock is ticking. And
the time to begin is now.


2. Learn From People Who Get Results

It is easy to get advice when you have a problem. Everyone has an
opinion! However unless that person has proven expertise in that
area be careful about following his advice.

On the other hand when you want to become better at something all
you really need to do is to open your eyes. Who do you know who
excels at that activity? Who has already solved that problem in
their own life?

Recently I was walking around town with a friend who invests in
property. Now a lot of people own their own home and even a
second home. This man is different. He owns several million
dollars worth of residential property and a hotel.

Maybe he would be a good person to talk to if you want to learn
how to make money in property!

As we walked around I asked him lots and lots of questions. He
is very patient with me! I was amazed how much I could learn in
minutes just by asking the right questions of someone with the
right answers.


3. Invest In Your Future

I have always been fascinated at how quickly my life can change
once I learn and use new distinctions. Think about it. The only
thing stopping you from succeeding in any area of life is a lack
of knowledge. And if you commit to learning you can bridge that
gap.

Let us say your goal is to be the CEO of the largest company in
your town or city.

What is stopping you?

Knowledge and skills. And these can be learned. You can acquire
the knowledge and mental skills, the people skills and the
ability to handle pressure.

Obviously you will choose a goal that will make you happy and
avoid occupations that you are not suited to. You will naturally
favor goals that build on your interests and aptitudes.

How are you going to quickly acquire the skills you need to move
ahead in your life? The fastest way is to invest money in courses
and books that reveal the strategies you need.

Consider how much money you spend each year to service your car.
The cost of oil changes, new tires and other repairs. Not to
mention insurance.

Do you spend this much on servicing and upgrading your skills?
And No this is not the responsibility of your employer. Your
company only spends on you to achieve the corporate goals not
your goals.

The first time I attended a huge three day personal development
seminar it was with several thousand people. And I learned a lot
in the car park! I noticed at 3 A.M. when the first day ended
that the car park was full of very expensive luxury cars.
Porsche, Rolls Royce, Jaguar, Bentley and Ferrari.

It was then that I understood what separates the most successful
people from everyone else. A lifetime commitment to learning and
a willingness to invest in their own development.

Do you want to step up and join those at the top of your field?
It is easier than you think because most people prefer to do
nothing and hope that things will somehow get better.

Take action and invest today in a bright new future.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to
Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because
it is available for a limited time only at:
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm




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